Facebook is your gramma's social network. We are all staying home, telling each other to stay home, and sending up prayers against this pestilence. So you guessed it, I use a timer when dallying on the net. By the way, friend me if you do Facebook. mememe
I like to surf the net as I watch television. I stopped turning on the TV in the morning. I haven't missed the morning news. I like to drink a cup of coffee by myself in the morning. So during the day, unwatched soap operas no longer fill the silence.
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But instead of whiling away my time on Facebook, I read. I have been reading Jemi Frasier's book called "Dancing with Dementia" and Ha Lin's novel "Waiting".
One reason I retired early and find myself housebound is taking care of people I love who need a home, meals and comfort. I get a lot of undue praise in that I benefit from this deal too. I've yet to know anyone who has lived a better life by running away from their responsibilities. But dementia and it's cousins are something I live with. I had thought of writing about my experiences too.
It takes a lot of love and patience. My nature is to be headstrong, ignore what I can and force things. What I learn from all of it is that not all needs to be controlled. I'm terrible to put things together without fully reading the instructions. One thing I know, if you force something, it will break and will not go together. Stop and look at the instructions.
I wanted to have finished reading the book before this post. I purchased the Kindle copy. It is currently 99 cents which is a good deal. I've read about 20 percent. I like how Jemi Frasier gives a story to episodes. It is not a fact, fact, bang sort of book. The storytelling lets the reader come to a conclusion which I think is brilliant. When your loved one becomes mentally incapacitated, it is a gradual process that you don't always notice until it is all you can see in shock.
For the record, I get no benefit from posting this book. One thing I have enjoyed about A to Z are the blogging friends I have made.
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I set you a friend request on Facebook. I don't spend a lot of time posting on it but will when I have time set up a facebook page for our new pup. I do go through my Facebook scroll probably more than I should but do try to limit time there. Fascinating book; I'll have to check it out. I often wonder how someone can tell if they are getting dementia or someone around them is getting it. This might be a good read for that. I get a lot of my books to read through our county's e-public library. Sometimes you have to wait for a book, sometimes 6 months for popular ones, but there are lots available to read. You can check out 10 at a time for 2 weeks. I usually get 2 at a time and read one book a week while exercising on the treadmill. I haven't watched much news lately; I think its better that way these days.
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My big weakness with the news is that I am a numbers junkie. I keep looking at the Covid numbers which is a bit chilling. I had a friend who never watched the news. I don't know that I could go that far but I don't think it is a bad idea. I encourage my mom to not watch the news.
DeleteI can't wait till your pup gets a page. That will be fun.
Dementia is a worrisome thing. But as my dad said, If you do get dementia, it won't be your problem. A dark joke but very true.
Thanks for friending me.
I sent a friend request.
ReplyDeleteI don't play FB, and watch as little television as possible.
ReplyDeleteReading provides me with education, with comfort - and escape.
I featured Jemi's book on my blog last week. I really appreciated her focus on not only her mother's safety but her happiness.
I'm ambivalent about Facebook. But I do enjoy some of the memes. I have gotten more from blogs. I haven't finished Jemi's book. So far, it is very interesting.
DeleteSounds like a good book- both of my parents suffered dementia
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that both of your parents had dementia. It's a bitter pill to accept and a bitter burden. Thanks for stopping by. Ann
DeleteI sent you a friend request from Dee Kay. That's who I'm known as on Facebook, though most people know it was a feeble attempt years ago to spy on my daughter when she first signed into FB ;-) Besides, I often use Dee Kay as a pen name. I tend to scroll FB toward day's end when I feel like I've met enough goals to engage in guilt-free browsing.
ReplyDeleteIt isn't easy caring for others. We've walked four beloved family members down that rutted sunset road to everlasting peace. Three had dementia/Alzheimer's, and one had severe respiratory issues. Now that we're gaining on those "golden" years, caring for each other is about all we can manage. But we don't regret for a minute the years we spent caring for those who needed us. I plan to read Jemi's book.
I watch/listen to History and Science channels, Nat Geo or Smithsonian while I'm working.
It's a privilege and a burden caring for someone at the end of life. I feel some concern for myself but I will let the future take care of itself. My big change is not putting so much pressure on myself Do what I can. I friended you back on Facebook. I'm bad about doing Facebook when I am waiting for something to cook. So I am on and off quickly. But I do enjoy scrolling.
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